Archives for the Month of May, 2011

Laughter

Laughter / Library of Congress

Laughter / Library of Congress

My friends say that since my stroke, I laugh louder. What else has changed?

Huge shoes

Huge Shoes / Wellcome Images

Huge Shoes / Wellcome Images


Many stroke victims purchase two identical pairs of shoes in different sizes. This is so they will fit their good foot into a normal shoe, and their cloddy ankle brace foot into a shoe 2 sizes bigger. Me, I just walked around in a single pair of huge shoes.

Parties

Party  / Library of Congress

Party / Library of Congress

At parties I have become very good at concealing my stroke. It’s not because I want to hide it, but I don’t want to explain it in the middle of a party.  Hiding it is not so hard. For one, everyone is standing around tipsy, not moving much. Also, if I’m talking to you and I lock eyes with yours, Western norms dictate that you will not look down if I don’t. You will not see my hand.

Dating

Lovers / Wellcome Images

Lovers / Wellcome Images


As a general rule, friends don’t set up friends with disabled friends.

Violin

Violin / Library of Congress

Violin / Library of Congress

Your healthy side is tall and straight. Your stroke side is all sagging angles. Your shoulder slopes down. Your hip rises unnaturally when you walk. Your stroke side is curved like a violin.

Racy Conversations

HIV Ad / Wellcome Images

HIV Ad / Wellcome Images

“If the average person talks about sex 10% of the time,” says my friend Aarti, “you were about 30%.” My conversations right after my stroke were often racy. I don’t remember this period at all.