Archives for the ‘Social’ Category

Cosmo

Cosmopolitan Magazine

Cosmopolitan Magazine

I’m in Cosmo Magazine! The editor asked for a StrokeMama story. Here it is….

Perhaps you can relate?

Manners

Manners / Wellcome Images

Manners / Wellcome Images

An amusing etiquette story from the gym. I was walking down the gym stairs while a guy was going up next to me.

He said, “Do you need help?” I guess my gait was not perfection.

I said, “No.”

Totally fine so far. Then he said,

“Do you need help?” again.

Why again? There was no way he didn’t hear me the first time.

I said, “No!!!!!” He kind of jumped and left.

You can ask disabled people if they need help once.  Asking them more than that implies that they are completely incapable of running their own lives. In fact, I go up and down stairs dozens of times a day, since I live in a 2-story house.

Any other silly disability etiquette stories?

Other manners entries….

Bundled

Snow-Buntings / Library of Congress

Snow-Buntings / Library of Congress

18 inches of snow are expected in Boston today! 46 centimeters! We were going to make a snowman, but my son rejected that idea. We negotiated a snowpuppy. Woof!

Carousel

Carousel / Library of Congress

Carousel / Library of Congress

We spent the holidays with my parents in Los Angeles — warm and sunny, instead of Boston cold and snowy.

In LA we went to the carousel on the beach. My husband held up our son on a carousel horse. Getting my stroke self up and over another horse was not easy but was done. Off we went. My son was so taken with the merry-go-round that we had to repeat: “Again! Again!”

Pouch

Mother and Child / Library of Congress

Mother and Child / Library of Congress

Certain brands of baby food pouches are f@*king hard to open. This is especially difficult if you have a hand injury. Or are grandma with arthritis. But even my athletic husband makes a face as he tries to twist the cap. (That’s you, Plum Organic and Peter Rabbit Organics!)

“It’s difficult,” says my son. “It’s hard.” “Daddy do it.”

Any other products that are not disabled friendly?

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Thanksgiving

Colorado / Library of Congress

Colorado / Library of Congress

We’re heading out to visit relatives this week, along with everyone else in the US. Ours live in New York, so we have a 5 hour car ride. My little son has taken to throwing up during any car trip longer than 15 minutes. We will be packing many, many changes of small clothing, plus a towel.

Happy Thanksgiving! Where are you going?

Rowing

Rowing / Library of Congress

Rowing / Library of Congress


This week is Head of the Charles, a regatta where people from all over the world row down the Charles River in Boston. I am amused: Harvard Square, usually filled with unathletic nerds, is instead dominated by tall, wide, buff people.

Gimp

Choreographer Heidi Lasky has been creating works with abled and disabled dancers. Here is part of a work entitled the Gimp Project. She defines “Gimp” as:  1. a ribbonlike, braided fabric 2. fighting spirit; vigor 3. a lame person 4. slang; a halting, lame walk 5. to turn, vacillate, tremble ecstatically. Youtube here….

 

Cyborg

Cyborg / Alternative Limb Project

Cyborg / Alternative Limb Project

James is a scientist who was in a horrible accident and needed prosthetics. Then a video game company advertised for a patient who wanted a cyborg arm, like one of their game characters. You can see his story here.

Would you want cyborg limbs?

Mother’s Day II

Mother's Day / Wellcome Images

Mother’s Day / Wellcome Images

I had a very sweet Mother’s Day, with flowers picked out by my son.

Someday he will notice and ask about my hand problem. Then what? What do other parents with disabilities say to small children?